I’ve owned this book for less than two weeks and it’s already covered in fingerprints, green juice splashes, dog-eared pages, and pen marked moments. The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul is already one of my most dearly loved reads. I’ve been a sucker for “self-helpy” type books for as long as I can remember but there are just a handful that I would actually consider life changing. What was really special about this one was the unconventional approach to setting goals. In fact, it’s hardly really about setting goals at all. The basic idea is to figure out first how it is that you want to feel and then go about building your goals, setting up your life and making decisions with those feelings in mind. The book was largely inspiring writing with a journaling section loaded with questions in the back. The questions were intensive and in support of discovering your “Core Desired Feelings”. I didn’t expect the reaction I would have to doing this work but it felt so liberating! No longer will I make goals that just sound impressive or do things that I feel like I “should” want to do. I will really sit back and look at the feelings and experience I’m wanting to have and make my choices from there. It feels a bit vulnerable to share these here but I’ve so enjoyed reading the conclusions and Core Desired Feelings that other’s have discovered and I trust that this is a safe space. After much writing, question answering, and tweaking, the feelings I’ve realized I most want from life (at this time) are:
This juice feast is fully supporting all of these.
Another angle on this is to use how you want to feel when you go about making the little day to day decisions, not just the big life changing ones. For example, I had a really rough moment with a customer today. It was the very end of my shift and as we were trying to communicate, I could feel my body tensing up, and every defensive thought imaginable entering my mind. I was polite and professional but also short and clearly frustrated. I went home and cried (being yelled at is never something I’ve handled well). What was really bugging me was, why did I react this way? Why did I get so tense and so angry? I’ve been getting so much better at loosening up when I feel myself tensing but I didn’t do it in this case. When I was home I took a long, hot bath and pulled out my journal. It took about one minute to realize something: In the frustrating work situation I was technically “right”…but it didn’t matter. Tense and frustrated, “cordially” trying to prove my point, did not leave me feeling how I wanted to feel. I didn’t feel “free”, I felt trapped- trying to justify my “rightness” in the situation. I walked through the situation in my head again and in my imaginary version I was extra kind and patient, whether the other person “deserved” that or not. It felt like freedom. It felt light. It felt good and it felt how I wanted to feel.
In other juice feasting news, here we are at the end of the first month! I’m excited to dive into some other spiritual type work next month as well as play with some other supplements, herbs, and oils. As far as juices, I’ve found myself strangely off-put by onions and garlic but loving ginger and cayenne for heat. I also suddenly think light juices based in cucumber and celery are pretty gross, which is weird as that’s all I used to drink. My favorite oranges have been replaced by pineapples and beet juice cannot be drunk in too much abundance. That’s all for now, see you in February!
Today’s Juice Feast: 32 oz Green Peppermint Crisp (recipe to come), 32 oz Lemon Pie Coconut Water (recipe to come), 32 oz mish-mash juice, 2 oz wheatgrass, 32 oz carrot/chard, 40 oz orange/beet/apple/chard with cayenne.